The Five Love Languages

I have just discovered this wonderful thing called, "The five Love Languages". Ever feel like you are speaking a totally different language from your partner? That's because you probably are! Here are the five love languages:

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

The best way to come up with your love language is for you and your loved one to take a quick quiz. Be sure to do them separately.

There are two different quizzes to pick from:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/30-second-quizzes/love/
or
http://www.afo.net/hftw-lovetest.asp

After Dustin and I took the quiz, we found out that I am "Words of Affirmation", while he is "Acts of Service" man. I know personally, this has given me insight and help in my relationship.

I hope you will find this very useful & if you get a chance, be sure to pick up a copy of the book, "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.